Is orgasm the goal of sex?

This, of course, does not mean that one cannot have an orgasm. But don't make it the goal. If a couple has become closer, aroused, and enjoyed the process itself, then the orgasm becomes a pleasant addition. The orgasm ties the composition together and becomes the 'cherry on top'. But if pleasure is derived only from orgasm, the vessel of pleasure will not be filled and an unpleasant aftertaste will remain.