Life will sort everything out

I always thought that life would sort everything out on its own. That it should decide who should be and who shouldn’t. And only now, looking back, I realize how foolish it was to think so and how many people I lost and let go. We ourselves leave people out of our lives, thinking that it has to be that way and that life will surely bring us together with those we need to be with. In the end, we often stay alone, not because life didn’t bring us together, but because we ourselves once rejected someone. Of course, it's always easier for us to think that we are not the ones to blame for our misfortune.

Run Away If There's No Tenderness

If there is no tenderness between you, no long hugs and passionate kisses, if you don't fall asleep nestled against his shoulder and don't wake up with the desire to spend time together, chat, cook, clean. Especially if you irritate each other, want to spend more time alone rather than in his company, do everything not out of desire, but just because 'you have to'... Why are you in this relationship? Pack your things and run! Don't think about complexities, obligations, and shared property! Just run! Life is one and it should be lived with a loved one, with whom everything is enjoyable: watching the stars, walking, being silent.

Not yours

This is primarily a female topic: convincing yourself to be with an unsuitable man, and then trying to fix the unfixable. It's like taking a piece of wood, wrapping it in dough, and then saying: "I'm trying to make pastries, but the filling tastes bad. I've already made the dough thicker and thinner. Shaped it into a square, and an oval. Lined them up and made a star. How can I make the filling taste good? What am I doing wrong? Or is it me that's wrong?" Relationships are a refuge, a world for two. Not the right one! For this man. Because he is not the right one for you. Well, he's not yours, and that's how it is. And even if you twist yourself into an eight and get the blessing of a thousand elders, he will still not be yours. And you're fine. It's just not fine where it's not your place.

Not yours

If a bit is missing, it may be missing for a lifetime. Do you want something to be missing? If yes, good, it's your choice, that's fine, why not. Then there’s no need to try to do something to make it enough. Just accept it and live with 'not enough'. You chose it yourself. We, women, are masters at deceiving ourselves. First, we invent a man, then we transfer all our warm feelings and ideas of how it should be onto him, and then we are surprised that he is not like that at all. Meanwhile, it was clear from the beginning that he was different. We just decided to deceive ourselves and believe that he is not like that now, but over time he will change, we will give him a chance, and everything will be fine. And then we give a second, third chance, and in general, we will keep giving chances until he changes, because we believed that he would become different, that he just needs a little more time.

Not Yours

I think the solution to the problem lies in the following. There are things in which we find it easy to make compromises, or at least we could do so. And then there are things that go against the grain, where, no matter how much you want it, compromise is impossible. Theoretically, it is possible, but for us, it is such a fundamental issue (of honor, conscience, or values) that practically - no way. Even if you manage to deceive yourself, you can't deceive life. The same is true with feelings. If they are not there at the beginning, why would they come later? They seem to increase (in some cases), but they are artificially forced and directed at an image, not a real person. Somewhere, perhaps, there is a person who fits the image, but it is definitely not this man.

Not yours

And a woman always knows and feels whether this is her man or not, but she can convince and deceive herself so much that she believes it. Time goes by, and nothing really changes. Therefore, if there are fundamental disagreements, I think it's not worth forcing the relationship; it's better to end it when it becomes obviously apparent. Relationships are a refuge, a world for two, a place of restoration where you disconnect from problems, a tuning fork that harmonizes you with all the best there is. If it's not like that, especially at the very beginning (!), why have such a relationship?!

Not yours

Yes, sometimes there is something to save – that's when people have been through a lot together, the love is alive, and there have been many wonderful moments. But if not, then there is no relationship, and there's nothing to save. If the horse is dead – get off. And if from the beginning the relationship has been just an additional source of problems, worries, and frustrations, run away from it, preferably to another end of the Universe, so you're not tempted to return. Happiness in a woman's life doesn't ask 'what to do' or 'what's wrong with me,' if it comes, it settles in a blissful smile, envelops with tenderness, and takes you to its world. And you know only one pair of eyes reflecting your happiness. Beside such happiness, the heart calms down...

Everything Passes

Everything in this world passes. Even the most unbearable pain. Even the one you thought you'd never recover from, which scarred your heart with numerous scars of varying sizes. It leaves on its own the moment something inside you lets it go, no longer able to cope with it, or perhaps, who knows, someone above decides that you've had enough, that you've suffered enough. In any case, no matter how strong your pain is now, remember that one day it will pass, making room for joy.

Surprises for Ladies

I believe a girl deserves gifts not only on her birthday or another holiday. There is no need to wait for the right moment to give flowers or make a compliment. And for attention and tender words, any time is suitable. And most importantly, a girl always expects this. Unexpected niceties are a thousand times more valuable than those we anticipate, they remain longer in memory and warm the soul!

Poor Love Strategy

Everyone is familiar with the phrase that the unattainable seems attractive. But for some reason, almost no one understands how it works. Many intuitively try to create difficulties to attract the attention of a partner who is likely to spend a lot of time and possibly money, but ultimately end up with even more difficulties in return. And the other side, watching the suitor's efforts, may take it as a display of love. As a result, those who have gone through your grindstones do not appreciate and respect you - you irritate them. And others do not want to participate in such competitions; they seek reciprocity and respect. Who ever came up with the idea that love should be born in suffering?

How to Cope with Guilt After a Conflict with Loved Ones

What to do if it's very difficult to cope with feelings of guilt after a conflict with loved ones? In this case, it is best to ask your loved one what you could do to make amends. Of course, it should be something reasonable. And if your loved one says they don't need anything, but that doesn't reassure you – ask them to come up with at least some small favor. This will help you feel that you have made amends with the person, and it will be easier for you to let go of the situation.

The Biggest Mistake in Relationships

The biggest mistake in relationships is thinking that if a person loves you, they won't go anywhere. In the beginning, when people just start getting to know each other, there is respect and tenderness in the relationship, and everyone tries not to show their flaws. But then everything fades away. Egoism takes its place when a person is so relaxed that they no longer watch their words and actions, taking out all their anger, bad mood, and emotions on their loved ones. It seems: well, where will they go?! Attention, care, and pleasant little things disappear, and it's not surprising that soon the beloved person will disappear too. If warmth is lacking, we are forced to look for it with other people. Do not let this happen! Cherish those who are nearby! Fate provides such people only once.

Inner comfort is more valuable

Inner comfort is more valuable than any temptations of temporary pleasure. More valuable than any temporary people and things. Everything you like is personal, and the personal belongs only to the person you see in the mirror. The rest are empty speculations and guesses of those who try to see something else in you. You are your best ally in being yourself and being happy in this mad world.

The Discovery of Inner Peace

One day, you stop being frantic and trying to prove something to someone, you look at the surrounding world with all its madness with a smile, you don't rush to please people, you don't hurry to give advice or judge or save anyone. You stop responding to calls from people who haven't fascinated or interested you for a long time, you look more at the sky than at who is busy with what and how they live. You recall what inspires you regardless of circumstances, you don't apologize, don't explain, don't argue, don't waste time on the uninteresting and temporary, and you discover incredible peace and many things you hadn't noticed before in your pursuit to fit into someone's idea or meet someone's expectations.

This Is Your Life

Do what you love and do it constantly. If something doesn't please you - change it. If you don't like your job - quit it. If you lack time - stop staring at the TV. If you're looking for the love of your life - stop. It will find you when you are doing what you love. Stop trying to analyze. Life is simple. All emotions are beautiful. When you eat, enjoy every bite. Open your mind, arms, and heart to new things. Open yourself to people. Remember that our differences unite us. Don't be afraid to ask. And don't be afraid to answer. Don't be afraid to share your dream. Travel! You might find yourself where you get lost. Many opportunities appear only once. Seize them. Life is about the people you meet and what you create with them. So start creating. Life is very fast. It's time to start.

Educational Balloon Experiment

The teacher brought balloons to school and asked the children to inflate them and write their names on them. They took all the balloons to the corridor, and the teacher mixed them up. Then the teacher gave them 5 minutes to find the balloon with their name. The children ran to search, but the time ran out, and no one found their balloon. Then the teacher asked the children: Take the balloon near you and give it to the person whose name is written on it. It took less than 2 minutes, and everyone had their balloon in hand. Finally, the teacher summarized the moral of this experiment: "Balloons are like happiness. No one finds it if they only search for it themselves. However, if everyone looks out for each other, it can be found much faster."

When He No Longer Loves

It happens – time passes, and people stop loving each other. He throws himself into work, she continues to hope. He gets a mistress, she believes it's not forever. He refuses to have sex with her, she tries to become more beautiful to be more attractive to him. He builds a glass wall between them, she learns to live in isolation, only sometimes, to get his attention, she taps with her fists and waves to him from behind this wall.

When he no longer loves

When he no longer loves. She gets used to not interfering, not compromising, not damaging his image, and being a very convenient, inconspicuous wife. She looks for other things to fill her life. If there are children - good, then she immerses herself in caring for them. If the children are old enough to detach themselves, or there are no children, she looks for hobbies: dancing, yoga and macrame, joint purchase forums and friends with their problems and their lives. If she has gone into work, she has less time to notice that something is wrong. From the point where closeness is possible, there is the same distance to each of them. They are both far away, and no one to wave from behind the glass wall.

When he no longer loves

Sometimes, on lonely cold evenings, when he comes home only after midnight, the thought creeps in that this can't go on for much longer, that one day she will not be able to take it anymore... But then the fear comes in – 'How can I be alone? At least now there's a living person nearby, even if sometimes, at least in principle. And there are no lines under the window... Who needs me with two kids or in my forty-something years'. And she decides that it's not all bad.

When he no longer loves

"In the end, from the outside, everything seems fine! And even at work, they are envious: 'What a husband you have!' Yes, even 'what kind,' the main thing is that he is there! Some people don't even have that. But wonderfully, she has learned to reassure and lull herself: 'Everything is fine, everything will eventually get better, he will change, and everything will be fine with us again...' Because the known and stable, even if it's the imperfect 'today,' is better than the unknown and therefore frightening 'tomorrow,' if suddenly 'today' she decides to change something."