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Useful Psychological Tricks
1. When a group of people laughs, each person instinctively looks at the one they find most likable (or the one they would like to consider a close person). 2. When you have to do something particularly responsible or requiring concentration, in short, something that usually makes us nervous, it's worth trying to chew gum or even eat something. This is subconsciously associated with a feeling of safety, because we usually eat when we are not threatened.
[Psychology]
January 13, 2025
Useful Psychological Tricks
3. If someone is angry with us and we manage to stay calm, the anger will probably only intensify. However, later this person will feel ashamed of their behavior. 4. If a person answers a question only partially or too evasively, it is not worth asking again. It is better to just silently look into their eyes. They will most likely realize that the answer did not satisfy the interlocutor and will continue speaking.
[Psychology]
January 13, 2025
Useful Psychological Techniques
5. Facial expressions can not only be a consequence of emotions but can also evoke these emotions. Feedback works almost flawlessly, so those who want to feel happy should smile as widely and often as possible. 6. If we manage to genuinely enjoy meeting someone, this person will be happy to see us at our next meeting. (By the way, dogs constantly do this trick with us).
[Psychology]
January 13, 2025
Useful Psychological Techniques
7. It's better not to use phrases like "I think" or "it seems to me" in speech or letters. They are implied but add a shade of uncertainty to the words. 8. Before an important interview, it's useful to imagine that we have a long-standing close friendship with the interviewer. It's almost always up to us how to perceive a situation, and our calm and ease can be conveyed to the interlocutor. 9. People are inclined to agree to a smaller favor after denying us a larger one.
[Psychology]
January 13, 2025
Useful Psychological Techniques
10. A lot of useful information can be gleaned by paying attention to the position of the interlocutor's feet. If, for example, the toes of their shoes are pointing in the direction opposite to us, this generally means that the person wants to finish the conversation quickly. 11. Many of us have found ourselves in a meeting situation where we expected sharp and unpleasant criticism from someone. In such circumstances, it is best to sit next to this person. Practice shows that they lose all their enthusiasm and intent to attack, or at least become much softer.
[Psychology]
January 13, 2025
Useful Psychological Tricks
12. Most people cannot distinguish between greatness and simple self-confidence. If you learn to exude confidence, people will be drawn to you. 13. A good tip for those who work in the service industry: having a mirror behind you can be very helpful. People tend to behave much more politely, as nobody likes to see themselves irritated or angry.
[Psychology]
January 13, 2025
Useful Psychological Tricks
14. A very useful habit is to notice the eye color of a person when meeting them. They will subconsciously feel sympathy for us due to the slightly prolonged eye contact. 15. When going on a first date, it is very wise to take the partner to an exciting place. Subsequently, the positive emotions from this meeting will be associated with you.
[Psychology]
January 13, 2025
The Biggest Mistakes We Make at the Start of a Relationship
1. We ask too few questions. It's simple - we don't want to hear unpleasant answers. We don't want to spoil the rosy picture. If you are desperately seeking love, if you want to tie your life to a specific person at any cost, you fear destroying your dream, avoid unpleasant topics. The truth is, in love and life in general, remaining in blissful ignorance is dangerous. The more information you have about your partner, the easier it is to decide if they are suitable for you or not. The less you know about a person, the greater the chance that your union will be unhappy, leading to disappointment or emotional trauma.
[Psychology]
January 11, 2025
The Biggest Mistakes We Make at the Start of a Relationship
2. We ignore warning signs. Paradoxically enough, the more inclined you are towards kindness and love, the less significance you attach to warning signs. You are accustomed to seeing only the good in people and trusting them, so negative traits and deviations from the norm are perceived leniently. But the time will come when you will have to pay the price for this leniency. This tendency is one of the most dangerous mistakes we make in our personal lives. We do not want to see what is unpleasant to us. In doing so, we doom ourselves to disappointment, betrayal, and resentment.
[Psychology]
January 11, 2025
The Biggest Mistakes We Make at the Beginning of Relationships
3. Premature Compromises. This refers to the adjustments you make when you come into contact with a new partner. Mainly, this happens for two reasons: 1. Compromise is necessary because you are not sufficiently compatible. Your partner is too different from you, and you have to sacrifice your own interests, otherwise your relationship will have no future. 2. You compromise because you desperately need love and want to achieve reciprocity at any cost. Your partner may not want you to give up your 'self' at all, but you are so afraid of disappointing them that you mislead them yourself. You go to great lengths to portray yourself as the 'perfect partner'.
[Psychology]
January 11, 2025
The biggest mistakes we make at the beginning of a relationship
4. We succumb to sexual infatuation. You might be in love not with the person but with your own passion. When you learn to evaluate people not by sight but by heart, it will be easier for you to find the right partner.
[Psychology]
January 11, 2025
The biggest mistakes we make at the beginning of relationships
5. We fall into material temptation. Each of us would like to think that we are above such materialism, that such things do not affect us. However, in practice, it is difficult to escape the influence of material temptations. Unfortunately, throughout history, women have been deprived of independence and power, so they have always sought famous and wealthy men. If you choose a partner based on material rather than emotional well-being, you are condemning yourself to unhappiness.
[Psychology]
January 11, 2025
The Biggest Mistakes We Make at the Start of a Relationship
6. We underestimate the factor of compatibility. Ten types of love relationships doomed to failure: 1. You love the partner much more than they love you. 2. The partner loves much more than you do. 3. You love not the partner, but their potential. 4. You 'rescue' the partner. 5. You look up to your partner. 6. You are attracted by external attributes. 7. You are not sufficiently compatible. 8. You choose the partner out of a spirit of contradiction. 9. The partner as the opposite of the previous partner. 10. The partner is unavailable.
[Psychology]
January 11, 2025
The Biggest Mistakes We Make at the Start of a Relationship
7. Fatal flaws to beware of: 1. Dangerous habits. 2. Aggressiveness. 3. Victim mentality. 4. Control. 5. Sexual inadequacy. 6. Childishness. 7. Emotional coldness. 8. Love trauma. 9. Childhood memory trauma. Qualities to look for in a partner: 1. Drive for self-improvement. 2. Emotional openness. 3. Honesty. 4. Maturity and responsibility. 5. Self-respect. 6. Positive outlook on life.
[Psychology]
January 11, 2025
Useful Techniques
Several ways to throw bad thoughts out of your head, learn to manage disappointment, and deal with toxic thinking. 1. Let's just wait and see what happens next. We often feel the need to react immediately to difficult situations or people, which can lead us to make some rash decisions. Psychologists advise instead to simply give yourself permission and time to wait and see what happens next.
[Psychology]
January 9, 2025
Useful Methods
2. Stop looking for someone to blame. Analyzing past events and trying to place blame on someone (including blaming yourself) are rarely a productive choice. Bad things and misunderstandings happen more often through a series of events, like a domino effect. No one is typically entirely responsible for the final outcome.
[Psychology]
January 9, 2025
Useful Techniques
3. Regardless of what happened, the biggest problem we face is our own anger. Our anger creates a cloud of emotions that steers us away from a productive path. In this sense, our anger is indeed our biggest problem. A solution to managing one's anger could be meditation, a walk, physical exercises – anything that allows us to calm our anger before dealing with anyone else.
[Psychology]
January 9, 2025
Useful Techniques
4. Don't try to understand what others are thinking. This is another piece of advice to clear bad thoughts from your mind. Ask yourself, if others tried to figure out what you think, or what your motives are, do you think they would be right? They probably wouldn't have the slightest idea of what's really going on in your head. So why try to figure out what others are thinking? Chances are very high that you will come to the wrong conclusion, which means a colossal waste of time.
[Psychology]
January 9, 2025
Useful Techniques
5. Your thoughts are not facts. Do not treat them as if they are. In other words, do not believe everything you think. We experience our emotions, anxiety, tension, fear, and stress in our bodies. Our emotions manifest physically. We often perceive this as a sign that our thoughts are real facts. However, real reality and our thoughts about it are far from the same.
[Psychology]
January 9, 2025
Helpful Techniques
6. You Are Not a Wizard. When we reflect on past events, we often look for ways we could have done things differently to prevent a wrong decision, an argument, or a regrettable outcome. However, what happened yesterday is just as much in the past as what occurred a thousand or more years ago during the era of the Maya civilization. We cannot change what happened back then, and we cannot change what happened a week ago.
[Psychology]
January 9, 2025